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Life update

Apologies for being so absent on this blog. Life got in the way.

This summer has been quite eventful. Here a few things that happened (hence, the absence from the blog)
1. Work became super busy as we doubled our team from 4 to 8 in a matter of 1.5 months. Lots of training but lots of fun growing our family at work.
2. A plethora of friends came to visit this summer (hosted friends every single weekend in August and still hosting a few more in Sept!). It was really great just to catch up with friends that I’ve been limited to seeing just 2-3 times a year now that I live in NorCal and don’t have the time to fly home.
3. Had a family reunion that took me on a mini tour of Asia including Singapore, Thailand, Malaysia and Taiwan. It was hectic having 19 people under one roof but it was definitely a memorable trip.
4. I got engaged. After 3 years of dating, the love of my life popped the question (on my birthday no less) and we are getting hitched next summer. Wedding planning has officially begun and I am terribly bad at it.
So there you have it. That’s my summer in a nut shell. I’m looking forward to an upcoming trip to NYC/DC and a number of other things. I’m really thankful for where God has taken me on this journey. This year has been a huge blessing in terms of friends, family, and the lovely fiancee. And we still have 4 months to go!
I’m definitely excited to see how the rest of the year will pan out but 2011 is shaping up to be pretty awesome. I’m speechless with how much God has blessed me.

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Every year, I’ll go through all my photo albums on Facebook and reminisce about the friendships that were during those time periods. There would be phases where one year would be dedicated to one group of friends and another year, another group of friends. But what I love most is having continued friendship with the same people throughout the years.

I found this image from back in 2007 (yes, I realize it wasn’t that long ago) and it made me happy to see that our friendships remain strongly intact, regardless of how little we see each other due to distance.



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Pretty much sums it up

Saw this on my friend’s blog yesterday and it perfectly summed up exactly how I’ve been feeling for a while.

There’s so much I want to do, so much I want to learn, and so many people I want to encounter.

But through all of this, maybe what I really need to be doing is slow down and let my soul stand still for a while.


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A few nights ago, I had dinner with a couple old friends. Nothing fancy. Just some pasta, salad and a whole lot of desserts. We had banana cream pie and strawberry pie from Marie Callendars and an assortment of pastries that included white chocolate cheesecake, tiramisu, blueberry cheese cake, and some fruit cake. Needless to say, it was the main course for the night. We didn’t do except sit around a table for 3-4 hours. Still, it was the most fun I’ve had in weeks.

I feel like we busy our lives with so much “stuff” like going to music concerts, going out with friends, getting happy hour with co-workers or doing ANYTHING. Sometimes, the best things are doing nothing at all.

All it requires is a few good friends and a few good desserts.

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Birthdays over the Years

This past weekend marked another birthday. As I reflected on turning another year older, I thought the best way to see changes would be to physically see the changes. I went through my photos and found birthday pictures dating back to high school days. Each year, the people in the picture varied bit by bit and each birthday served as a reminder of the friends who came and went and of those who stayed. Either way, it brought back good memories and lots of laughs (as I laughed by myself in my room).

2003 – Young and naive

2005 – Still young, less naive, but still stupid

2006 – Okay so not much as changed from year to year

2007 – The start of cementing solid friendships

2008 – This was a good year

2009 – First birthday away from home, still a good one nonetheless

2010 – First birthday with a mix of people. Some, I had known for years. Others, I had known for less than 8 months. Good times

While it’s always good to make new friends, it feels even better to know that some friendships stay strong throughout the years. Here’s to my friends to making it all worthwhile.

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(via Flickr)

I have learned that good conversation, good company and good food will always be the one thing that makes me happier than anything else.

I had an overload of that in my last trip home and I’m still on a high from it. I don’t think I can ever get enough of it.

And without the girlfriends in my life, this wouldn’t be possible.

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Girl Power!

“Women and girls are one of the world’s greatest untapped resources. Remember the proverb, ‘Give a man a fish, and he’ll eat for a day, teach a man to fish, and he’ll eat for a lifetime?’ Well, if you teach a woman to fish, she’ll feed the whole village.” – Secretary of State Hillary Clinton

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This year will mark my first actual Valentine’s date. I guess part of me should be excited about that fact but honestly, it’s just a day. It’s a business-driven holiday to boost the economy with overpriced chocolate, flowers and red cards.

I think my best Valentine’s had to be last year and I didn’t have a date. I had 15. In celebration of the day, 15 of my img_1658friends got together at someone’s house and threw a party. As it turned out, all 15 of us happened to be single. Coincidence? Who knows. In the course of 3 hours,  not once did someone complain about the day, despite the fact that we had heart-shaped img_16391decorations all over the walls, chocolate-covered strawberries and Valentine’s Day cards strewed all over the table. There were no sullen looks, there were no “I wish I had somebody” cries. No, there was laughter and lots of it. Girls beating guys at a game of Halo, friends telling ridiculous stories that made no sense and the sheer volume of drunken laughter was enough to show that not a single one of us was feeling lonely on this day. I don’t know if I can speak for the rest of my friends but I have to say this was probably one of the happiest days ever. I almost would have forgotten about the day had it not been for the overwhelming theme of red clothing worn by all the lovebirds. I guess most people hate this day because deep down, we’re all just lonely and want to feel loved by someone. I felt that last year.


Plus it was nice knowing you didn’t have to spend money buying useless gifts or outfits that you could only wear once.

But best of all, Valentine’s Day marks the day before the best chocolate sale ever! Although I’m looking forward to spending time with the boyfriend this year, I’m a little more excited to hit up Walgreens or Target and raid the chocolate/candy aisle.  After all, Valentine’s Day can also be called Eat-your-heart-out day

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As everyone knows, Facebook is a social network where your “friends” may not even be your friend at all. Admit it, for most of us, a “chunk” of our friends are either 1) people we met once or 2) people who we knew of but we never actually have a conversation with

There are two types of Facebook people:
1. The Facebook user who has less than 100 friends and actually hang out (or hung out) with them on a regular basis
2. The Facebook user who has 500+ friends but only considers 10 of them actual friends.

I hate to admit it but I fall into category #2. I have to admit, 1/3 of my friend list are either friends of friends or just people that added me after I met them once or twice. I will say this though, I have never added a complete stranger. So what is considered normal these days?

The following scenarios are based on true events

Normal or creepy?

  • Scenario #1

You hang out with your friend and his/her friends. It’s the first time you met them but after a fun night out, you’ve gotten to know them a bit better and you’ve exchanged a couple laughs with them. You end the night saying things like “We should hang out again!” and “Dude let me get your number” You get home that night and you’ve noticed that the same people you saw less than an hour ago has somehow already found you on Facebook and wants to be friends. Normal or creepy?

  • Scenario #2

Similar with the first scenario only in this case, you BARELY talk to them. In fact, the only words you exchange is a quick “Hey what’s up” when your friend introduces you. The only thing you remember about them is their first name. Sometime in the next hour or week you’ve noticed that the person you barely said hi to has decided to add you as their friend on Facebook. Normal or creepy?

  • Scenario #3

Someone from your high school/college adds you as their friend on Facebook. You remember them simply because you had several classes with them through high school/ college but you have never spoken a single word to them in your life. Normal or creepy?

  • Scenario #4 (and my favorite)

A friend of mine works at the Mercedes Dealership and has several clients that he sees on a regular basis, whether it be yearly or quarterly. He informs me that several of them have tried to add him as a friend on Facebook in the past. Now at this point, I think to myself, these people are not your friends, they are your customers. Secondly, you were clearly on their mind if it even occurred to them to search for their mechanic on Facebook and add him as a friend. I’m not going to ask if this is normal or scary because I’ve deemed this as very creepy.

  • Scenario #5

Your mom or dad has decided to hip with the times and has created a Facebook account. There is nothing scarier than seeing your mom/dad’s name show up saying “____ wants to add you as a friend!” Normal or creepy?

The next time you see a friend request from someone you barely know, or you decide to look up some person that you barely even know, please take a moment and consider if what you are doing is completely normal or creepy. I know the times have changed but honestly, do we really need 1000+ friends? It’s just useless news feed on people you barely even care about. Come on now, think about it. That being said, I think I need to delete a good 300 people off my list.

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The competitive friend


Ah the competitive friend. I’m not just talking about the friend who always needs to score the most points in a basketball game, or the friend who needs to have the highest kills on Counter Strike. I’m not talking about the friend who needs to be the best breakdancer nor am I talking about the friend who needs to win every single contest.

I’m talking about the friend who needs to win the game of life.

I know you have one. Everyone has this friend. This is the “friend” who calls you to see how you’re doing, but really, he/she is calling you to compare your current life with theirs. They always need to be one-up on you. Just got a promotion? Well then your friend just got a promotion AND a raise. Just started talking to some new guy? Well your friend can’t seem to find time to juggle the numerous suitors that are after her. Had a fun trip to Vegas? That’s cue for your friend to brag about the one time SHE went to Vegas and got into all the VIP hotspots and so forth.

This is the friend who will talk crap on everyone to you and then probably talk crap on you to everyone else. They are sweet and caring, but only if they are doing better in life than you are. You serve as a daily reminder to them that they are better than you in life. When your life is going well, it brings out the competitive edge in them to do even better. It’s like an addict to them. It’s almost ridiculous.

Well I just happen to have this exact friend. Who will give me insulting compliments.
For example:

  • I have naturally frizzy curly hair (curse my dad’s genes)
    Her: “Wow your hair isn’t so out of control today! I’m so glad I have naturally straight hair”
  • Telling her how stressed out I was due to job hunting
    Her: “Yeah don’t worry, it took my friend 9 months to get a job, and she’s a Stanford grad student”
    (I am not a Stanford alum nor am I even a grad student, how the hell is this suppose to encourage me?)
    Her: “Oh yeah but I guess I got lucky because I found a great job just after a month”
  • When I started dating someone
    Her: “Where does he work/live/school at” a.k.a. “Let me compare him to my suitors”
    After I refuse to tell her the details about him
    Her: So this guy at my church is totally into me. He won’t stop texting me just to see what I’m doing. And there’s this other guy from school who’s been hinting for a date. Geez who do these guys think I am? I’m not open to everyone!
    I left out a lot of detail but at this point I’m trying to refrain from rolling my eyes into the back of my head

I guess you can justify it all by calling them insecure but the truth is, most of the time, they really aren’t (or at least they don’t act that way) They see themselves to be the A-list person of your social group, the one that everyone wants to emulate. The sad part is, most of the time, these people will never admit to being this type of friend. There is nothing noble about being this friend, in fact, there is nothing friendly about it.

There’s also no way to get rid of them. Truth is, you might need them in your life. Why? Because you might unconsciously be doing the same thing to them. In revenge of them trying to compare their life to yours, you have now in turn taken it upon yourself to make your life better just so you can give them a smug look. Competition can only be bred through stimulating others to go for the same goal. So think of it as payback. A good payback.


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